So this one was actually kind of tough for me. I’m still learning till this day about myself. Okay let’s dive in. One of key parts of being in a healthy relationship is knowing how to communicate with one another. One way is seeing in how your partner and you can better understand each other “hear” your love. Does your partner appreciate physical love? Such as random acts of kissing and hugging and etc. Or do They prefer being reassured by verbal preferences. Such as saying “I love you” often or “I care about you”? Or do they appreciate the common random act of receiving gifts. Such as small things or big things that’s physical that they can hold and touch. It doesn’t have to be expensive just something that honours your partner. Once you are able to identify what they appreciate more then you are able to express the love they can truly see. We are all different and have different needs in relationships. Which is totally okay as long as you’re open with your partner about your needs.
Heres something that alot of young people struggle with. This be myself included. A Lot of the times we completely surround our life around our partners. As compassionate people we want to help and care as much as we can for the people we love. But there is a limit in which can be unhealthy. We start to take on their energy that can be exhausting. If your partner has had a busy or stressful day you soon take on that energy of stress and overload that does not belong to you. Be understanding of course, just know that isn’t your energy to take on. It’s okay to take a step back from it to find your true energy.
Be aware of how much time you spend together. There comes a point where we all need alone time. Its very important to spend time with yourself and thoughts. To gain the trust in our whole being back. To clear our pallet of toxic energy. Self growth is vital in a relationship. You need to be able to be comfortable with yourself in order for you to be comfortable with the person you love. Simply communicate that this nothing against your partner you just need to regain a connection with yourself.
Arguments can almost take over a relationship that’s why it’s best to set a ground of what areas your sensitive in. With me I found that writing letters helped significantly. If you feel a heated argument coming on simply just take yourself away from the situation. Assess yourself before coming back to the conversation. Man can I tell you how dangerous that is to start talking from your ego. If you want to address a certain situation that is sensitive. Write out a rough draft, find out your true meaning behind it. Then simply bring it up in a sensitive matter. One that can empower you both. Never overload it with more than one sensitive issue. Because it may cause your partner to feel as if you are talking down to them. As if you are pointing out all your flaws.
In the end Respect one another and come from a point of understanding first before you come in judgmental mode. And always be honest and open to whatever is going on so they can better understand how to communicate with you. So you can grow together.
I really want to write about this more but the words will soon come for me to share to you all. Thank you!