As we try to move on and heal, at most its very hard when they’re is no closure involved. As if it burns and stings for longer. Damaging your next relationship/friendship. One way that helps is to understand your own point of view. To give attention to what you can gain and move forward. I tend to write these people a hand written letter. Telling exactly how you feel and without catering to their opinion. Just exactly what went on and how you felt. Don’t send it. Its only for you to take a step in accepting. Before gaining any sense of closure you have to first begin with you. Because you were also a huge part of the relationship. It might simply be that you needed more than what that person could provide.
One of my most recent relationships I’d discovered how blinded I had become. Caring and giving much much more than what I was able to provide to have a healthy self. All my attention went into helping this person. In the end I had no energy to see what was happening. I had weakened the strongest part of me. I was brainwashed by this person who was of afraid of me. Afraid because they knew damn well I deserved more. Selfish, So he could keep my bright light all to himself. It wasn’t until I became the angerist I’d ever have been since I was a young girl before my knowledge of how powerful I could be. I lost me. I wrote a little something on tumblr one night and it sorta struck me hard. Why did I let this person poison me? How was I able to ignore this much anger?
I say this all sounding like he’s a horrible person but he really isn’t. I was more mad at myself for letting this happen. He is a great guy, just wasn’t able to provide what I needed. Didn’t know how to care for a person like me. How am I to be angry at a person who simply doesn’t know better. Thats never had experience with a women who really can understand and accept a lot more. Part of me gave up near the end. I began to lash out without giving a reason. I was short, distant, and angry. How was he suppose to fix anything if I never gave him a chance to know?
Each relationship shows you more about yourself then ever. Please don’t chose to ignore once its all over. This is the time when you can become so much more whole. To begin a better life for you. The more you know you, then the better the next person will know you and cater to your wellbeing.